Category Archives: Courtship & Marriage

How I Got Married

Even though I’d never met my future wife and she lived 8,500 miles away.

A year ago today, I got a friend request from a girl I’d never heard of.

Now we’ve been married for four months.

How to get married, ChristianPretty much everything about our love story is different from what I had imagined, and I’m so thankful for that.

The verse, “A man’s heart devises his way, but the Lord directs his steps,” is so true. (Proverbs 16:9)

The wife God had for me is so much more wonderful than I could have ever hoped for.

My plans don’t match God’s plans

I have hardly ever added someone on Facebook that I haven’t met, and never added anyone that I hadn’t been introduced to.

So on this day a year ago when a friend request popped up, I ignored it. A couple of hours later a message came through. Rachel was saying she lived way over in Virginia, talked about our mutual friends and connections and said she’d like to friend me. Her picture was pretty cute too.

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Time To Be Men

Time To Be Men

I’ve done an audio recording (above) of the post so you can listen instead of reading it. It’s just a trial I thought I’d do as I’ve been making a lot of audio for my business lately. Let me know if it’s something you like or if you’d just rather read it. Cheers.

This post is about manning up. Us young guys need to get serious about becoming the men God expects us to be, and the men our future lives will require. If you’re a girl it doesn’t all apply to you, but us guys around you need all the encouragement you can give to help us reject the world’s plan (because really, the odds are stacked against us).

The Village

Imagine we live in a village, 700 years ago. You know the kind of place… quaint houses, thatched roofs, a stone bridge over the river, livestock in wooden pens, and a friendly market. A lovely peaceful place.

The problem is the barbarians. They attack the village to pillage and plunder. It’s always unpredictable and out of the blue. At first the attacks weren’t so bad, but over the last few years they’ve gotten less frequent, but more severe. And there are murmurs that a huge horde is planning to come and overrun the countryside.

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Dancing, Crushes and Keeping Your Head Screwed On

Ceilidh Dancing

Earlier in the year we put on a medieval themed party. During the evening we had Ceilidh dancing. This is a Celtic style of dancing which is a lot of raucous fun. Think stomping, clapping and Celtic music.

Friends taught it to us a few years ago. At first I was sceptical. Dancing seems like a worldly mine field (and for the most part it probably is). However Ceilidh turned out to be good, clean, family fun.  There’s nothing sensual about this dancing. The most intimate contact you get is holding hands.

But you do have partners. Usually a guy and a girl. So who will you dance with?


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The Problem With Beaches

New Chums Beach, Coromandel, NZ, selected in the world's 20 most beautiful beaches.

Beaches are my favourite places on this planet.

I’m lucky to live in a country with an inordinate amount of coastline. You can’t get more than a couple of hours from a beach if you try.

The problem with beaches is lots of people don’t wear many clothes on them.

Our nearest beach is a place we can’t even visit over the summer holidays and weekends. Even in the shoulder season we have to travel away from the city to find a patch of sand without a parade of flesh walking past.

Not going to the beach over the Christmas season is a crying shame, but it’s just the reality of living in a sin sick world.

Purity Is A Big Deal

Sexual sin is the area young people most often fall in. And they fall hard. I don’t want that to be us, no matter how unlikely it may seem for goody-goodies like ourselves.

When Jesus tell us lust is the same as adultery in the heart, we need to pay serious attention.

Surfing Girls

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Marriage – Missing The Point

The royal wedding this weekend was spectacular. Most pleasing was the large amounts of praises, references and petitions to God in the ceremony. Even though the couple is completely secular you could see the Christian heritage.

There was however a disturbing theme, mostly promoted by the commentators.

They basically said that while Charles and Dianna’s marriage was a foolish affair, this one was much more sensible because William and Kate have been living together for years, so their relationship is serious. The fact they’re not virgins is touted as a very good and wise thing.

Aren’t We Missing The Point A Bit?

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Why I Don’t Have A Girlfriend

My friend Darcy will tell you it’s because nobody wants me.

Maybe he’s right, I’ve never put it to the test.

Relationships are where you see Christian young people stuff up more than anywhere else. And they stuff up really big, so the topic deserves attention.

I’ve been asked plenty of times why I don’t have a girlfriend. Am I just a weirdo or a loser? (Again, always a possibility.)

Here’s my top five reasons. (If you already agree they might be useful ammo for you.)

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